Adolescence is a time when teenagers begin to explore and assert their personal identities. Adolescent anger is a part of growing up. Physical and emotional changes occur at a rapid pace, the need for acceptance gains importance and every teen tends to learn how to cope with the new changes. Adolescents also learn to get along with others and discover their own self. Learning to adapt to these changes may create anger and sometimes even aggression in some teenagers.
Understanding the causes of anger and aggression may help parents and adolescents to cope with their anger in a more effective way.
Anger is a normal emotion to distress, but requires appropriate expression. Some of the common triggers for anger in adolescents may include feeling of being misunderstood, feeling disrespected, too many expectations from school or parents, social pressures to look good, clashes or arguments with friends, etc.
Parents may be of great help in making their adolescents understand and cope with their anger. Parents can help the adolescents develop skills for anger management and also provide them guidance on other skills, absence of which may be causing the expression of anger, such as assertiveness and communication skills. Parents can:
Communicate and listen to the adolescent sincerely, allowing him/her to express his/her needs and causes of anger.
Help the adolescent identify the triggers and signs that make him/her angry.
Encourage adequate coping skills to deal with stress and anger in an effective manner.
Ensure a good lifestyle and ascertain the need for it to maintain a positive approach, e.g., diet, sleep and exercise.
Demonstrate themselves as good models for anger management.
Seek help from trained professionals as it may help in exploring the roots of anger and the adolescent's needs, ways to address them, and developing anger management skills.
Support and guidance from parents and trained professionals can help the adolescents to learn effective skills for anger management, making positive changes in their life.
"An important key in anger management is identifying the trigger and what it means for you." - Daniel Brush