Self-Regulation

Self-Regulation is the ability to monitor and control our own behaviour, emotions, or thoughts, altering them in accordance with the demands of the situation. It is one of the most important aspects that need cultivation during an adolescent's social and emotional development. Self-regulation is the ability that enables an adolescent to manage his/her emotions, resolve conflicts, build resilience, counter-act negative thinking and anxiety, and thus, build confidence to tackle difficult situations with a sense of balance and calmness.  Such self-confidence makes adolescents be under self-control and make informed decisions about which situations they need to avoid and which they need to undertake for their betterment. 
 
Why is self-regulation important for teenagers/adolescents?
 
  • Self-regulation in teenagers enables them to become more responsible and engage in less risk-taking behaviours.
  • To have a positive impact in their interactions with others.
  • To become cognitively self-reflective in learning and in behaviours.
  • Equipping teenagers with better problem-solving skills.
  • Identifying one's feelings and expressing them in healthy ways, without being aggressive towards self or others.
  • Self-regulated teenagers are more likely to develop positive patterns of thinking, engaging in less negative self-talk, and having healthy routines and habits. 
 
Parent's tools for enhancing Self-Regulation
 
  • Creating goals and a routine.
  • Removing supervision as teens begin to do things without reminders.
  • Engaging in family activities and rituals.
  • Encouraging the adolescent and facilitating positive conversations.
  • Discouraging counterproductive habits or impulsive changes by facilitating a period discussion with the adolescent on planned goals.  
  • Helping teenagers become more mindful about the effects of distractions, such as from gadgets, and encouraging prioritization.
  • Emphasizing on recording one's progress, which can foster self-reflection, awareness, and planning.
  • Being a good role model, as a self-regulated adult. 
 
"Self-regulation will always be a challenge, but if somebody's going to be in charge, it might as well be me." - Daniel Akst